Fighting for a ‘Kause’
A click of a mouse sends more than just a notification to junior Taylor Kuklin and freshman Hope Kuklin. It sends hope.
The website www.krissyskause.com was designed as a fundraiser for their mother, Krissy Kuklin, and her fight against breast cancer. Krissy’s Kause began when family friend Yvette George heard about Krissy’s diagnosis and started the organization to help pay for chemotherapy treatments. Yvette administers the website and Facebook group that include updates on Krissy’s condition, encouragements from her friends and information about fundraisers held in her honor.
The word also spread quickly online, and Krissy has been flooded with encouragement from people all over the world, from the U.S. to Israel. Many of Krissy’s friends have begun helping, and when she isn’t able to manage daily errands, they help by cooking meals for the Kuklins, preparing enough to fill an entire freezer.
Hope and Taylor’s friends from school began to buy the $20 t-shirts that read “Eat my Chemo” and the $3 bracelets that benefit Krissy. The bracelets are worth much more than $3 to Taylor, who wears it faithfully night and day.
“We’re not taking them off until she’s completely clean,” Taylor said.
Along with wearing the Krissy’s Kause bracelets, Taylor proudly bears a Livestrong bracelet on her wrist to show her support of the Lance Armstrong foundation-an organization close to her mother’s heart.
The bracelets are a constant reminder of how important her mom is to her. With Krissy’s medical bills adding up to $14,000 out of pocket for each weekly round of chemotherapy, Taylor and Hope have had to prioritize their lives.
“What’s more important: stuff or mom’s health?” Taylor said. “Do we really want to go spend all this money shopping or would we rather spend it on medical bills?”
In addition to cutting back on spending, Taylor and Hope also have to give a little more. With four kids to take care of, including Mia, age 11, Krissy relies on the older girls to help out by doing more around the house. They try to keep Krissy healthy by cleaning the house constantly and by changing their diet since cancer cells feed off sugary foods.
These are changes that have become everyday life since February of 2008, when Krissy found out that she had triple negative breast cancer that had spread to her lymph nodes at stage 2B.
Triple negative is the trickiest of breast cancers since it accounts for only 10-20% of all breast cancers and is often unresponsive to cancer treatments. It typically affects African American and Latino women around the age of 30. Krissy was diagnosed at the age of 40.
In November 2011, Krissy was told that her triple negative breast cancer had returned to her neck, sternum and liver; this time it was at stage four.
“The first time I knew okay I have six rounds of this, and I have 12 rounds of this and then I’m done,” Krissy said. “Now they’re saying it could be forever.”
Krissy currently visits MD Anderson in Houston, Texas to discuss her options and progress with a team of doctors.
Throughout the tears and bad days, the Kuklin family holds strong in their faith in God, attending church weekly at The Village.
“I think it just made us more thankful for everything and actually realize what God does because you could just see it through her process how He works through things,” Taylor said. “I think it just helped us spiritually and mentally.”
Krissy said she has felt God’s presence in some of her darkest hours, after heavy and exhausting treatment. As she lay in her hospital bed surrounded by family and friends kneeling over her to pray, she experienced God in a way that she never had before.
The love of those closest to her also touches her heart. Her husband and biggest supporter is a testament to that. On October 21, Blake Kuklin will participate in the 15th annual Livestrong fundraiser in Austin to honor her. Cyclists race in the 100 mile bike ride followed by a formal gala that evening to support the fight against cancer. Kuklin and her family will attend the fundraiser in celebration of her strength and determination throughout her bout with cancer.
Taylor has learned valuable lessons throughout the course of Krissy’s struggle with cancer, many of which have strengthened their family. She appreciates her mom more and doesn’t take time for granted.
What Krissy appreciates the most is time with her family when she’s feeling well.
“I just know you’re not promised tomorrow,” Krissy said. “Just don’t take life for granted.”
Krissy’s family, friends and faith have kept her going and they all say the same thing: fight.
“You took my breasts, my hair and challenged me as a wife and mother,” Krissy said. “Eat my chemo…you can’t take my life.”